You know when you see a meme and it just stays with you?
There have been many over the years, but this one, well…read on:
Somewhere someone is searching for you in every person they meet
Here’s a truth bomb. While married, I would fantasize getting divorced. I’m sure that’s common. I also used to day dream about my future person. I’d think, there’s got to be some dude out there that’s married and just as miserable as me!
Six days after my divorce was finalized I met my person.
Jason is also divorced. Whether or not he was miserable is not relevant or anyone’s beeswax, but, he is divorced.
We just returned from an epic trip to the Virgin Islands. The pics above were taken within 24 hours of each other. What a difference a day makes! It’s what inspired me to write this post.
Yesterday morning we were in paradise. This morning we woke to frigid temperatures and piles of leaves that still needed to be removed from our property. Unpacking, piles of laundry to do, food shopping, work, you know…
….we were back to real life.
And you know what? It’s fucking fantastic! Because I’m doing it side by side with my person. We are partners, a team, something I did not experience during my marriage.
Ladies and gents, the ones who are unattached and searching for your person. This is for you. This post is not to brag about my relationship. It’s about sharing what I’ve learned that led me to meeting someone remarkable.
If you really want to be in a happy, healthy relationship, you must first learn to love yourself unconditionally. Treat yourself like you’d treat your best friend, speak only kind words, forgive, and don’t hold yourself hostage for things that happened long ago. Learn from your mistakes.
Then, don’t keep those walls up around your heart. Energy is a real thing. People pick up on that shit. Prior to being married I was a mess. Hindsight is 20/20 of course, but I believe my energy and intentions attracted a certain kind of guy. They weren’t all bad people, some just didn’t want a commitment, were unavailable, or they just weren’t interested in me.
Pretending to be OK without a partner when you deep down want one is also sending the wrong signal into the Universe and your subconscious mind, which I believe is all connected. Your subconscious is where it’s at people! I’ve been geeking out hard on this subject lately and just finished a fascinating book called The Genie Within (check out my favorite products page for the link) which is written in laymen’s terms on how to re-program your belief system to attract whatever you want. Your conscious mind is the goal-setter, and the subconscious mind’s job is the goal-seeker. That’s where letting go comes into play. Your subconscious is more powerful than you can ever imagine, so let it do it’s thing, stop trying to control shit, and you’ll be amazed how things will work out. So, Fucking. COOL!
So, back to finding your person.
Another meme that stuck with me was:
One man’s ‘I’m not ready’ is another man’s ‘she’s exactly who I’ve prayed for’
Live your life fabulously. Be the most lovable, best version of yourself. Become the vibrational match of the person you want to attract. This isn’t woo-woo shit. It’s science! It’s the LAW OF ATTRACTION and there are hundreds of books written about it.
Do the work. Read the books. And when you meet your person pass on the lesson and your knowledge on this topic. It’s what will keep us all in a high-vibe state of mind! And there ain’t no place I’d rather be!